Okay, I know the term 'bullying' sounds sooo lame, but it's the best word to use. Working at my old high school in the student services area has made me realise how many people do get 'bullied'... which makes me feel a little stupid for feeling so alone when it was happening to me.

I think it's one of the biggest issues in high schools that so many people just look past. People don't realise that bullying can change effect a person for their entire life.

I'm just wondering if anyone wanted to share their experiences (or someone they know) with either being bullied, even bullying others themselves, or maybe just even post anything you have to say towards it. because hey... I think we all do it sometimes, even without realising it. I've noticed it a lot on this forum, so maybe it's something that needs to be brought to some people's attention.

Bullying isn't just teasing someone or physically hurting them, it can even be manipulating them... basically, it's just making someone feel negatively towards themselves.

I've been bullied loads. Lots in Primary school buy these girls who pretended to be my friends.

I was bullied by one of the lasses a few years ago when I was in year 7/8 and she used to hit me and call me names and sit at the back of the classroom saying stuff like ''Narrr vicky, would ya dare!'' then if i looked at her i would get ''WHAT? WHAT THE FUCK YEE LOOKING AT!.. freak'' and stuff like that :/ and lately shes been bragging to people about it all as if she's proud of bullying me

Once, the same girl found out the lad I fancied and started being all over him just because I liked him. She used to hug him and stuff in the yard and be like ''VICKY LOOK . Used to piss me off and there was no need at all.

Now, she's a fat slag tbh. I hate her and she's made alot of my school life a misery.

Hahha all that sounds pathetic because I havent put lots of detail in.
xxxx

Ok, now im worried she'll come on these boards and read that.... she came on here once.

xxchloeepoozxx:

i've been bullied a fair bit.
back in aussie, it was because of my eyes were "different" then because i was a maori and came from new zealand. got called "new zealand freak" by a few guys in my year back then.

but the worst bullying was with a big group of people back 4 years ago when they started to make a stupid immature group up called the "I Hate Chloe Waaka Club" which made me laugh, but then they started to write letters to me during classes, and made me feel like nothing, and then someone spread something i still have no idea what it was which made people stay away from me and all my "friends" ditched me. so i was a loner for a while, then i got called "Gothica" and "McEmo Kid" for about 2 years but now its stopped.

bullying can change people. it can destroy peoples confidence. i used to be quite confident and easy going and really loud, now im more shy and scared and really defencive because i've been defending myself so much i've forgotten how to be easy going.

I agree 100% I've hardly got any confidence, only around people I know well.

xx

.Vicky.:

xxchloeepoozxx:

i've been bullied a fair bit.
back in aussie, it was because of my eyes were "different" then because i was a maori and came from new zealand. got called "new zealand freak" by a few guys in my year back then.

but the worst bullying was with a big group of people back 4 years ago when they started to make a stupid immature group up called the "I Hate Chloe Waaka Club" which made me laugh, but then they started to write letters to me during classes, and made me feel like nothing, and then someone spread something i still have no idea what it was which made people stay away from me and all my "friends" ditched me. so i was a loner for a while, then i got called "Gothica" and "McEmo Kid" for about 2 years but now its stopped.

bullying can change people. it can destroy peoples confidence. i used to be quite confident and easy going and really loud, now im more shy and scared and really defencive because i've been defending myself so much i've forgotten how to be easy going.

I agree 100% I've hardly got any confidence, only around people I know well.

xx

exactly, its difficult to be yourself around others now, because you get scared on how some people may judge you or that could just be me

.Vicky.:

xxchloeepoozxx:

i've been bullied a fair bit.
back in aussie, it was because of my eyes were "different" then because i was a maori and came from new zealand. got called "new zealand freak" by a few guys in my year back then.

but the worst bullying was with a big group of people back 4 years ago when they started to make a stupid immature group up called the "I Hate Chloe Waaka Club" which made me laugh, but then they started to write letters to me during classes, and made me feel like nothing, and then someone spread something i still have no idea what it was which made people stay away from me and all my "friends" ditched me. so i was a loner for a while, then i got called "Gothica" and "McEmo Kid" for about 2 years but now its stopped.

bullying can change people. it can destroy peoples confidence. i used to be quite confident and easy going and really loud, now im more shy and scared and really defencive because i've been defending myself so much i've forgotten how to be easy going.

I agree 100% I've hardly got any confidence, only around people I know well.

xx

xxchloeepoozxx:

.Vicky.:

xxchloeepoozxx:

i've been bullied a fair bit.
back in aussie, it was because of my eyes were "different" then because i was a maori and came from new zealand. got called "new zealand freak" by a few guys in my year back then.

but the worst bullying was with a big group of people back 4 years ago when they started to make a stupid immature group up called the "I Hate Chloe Waaka Club" which made me laugh, but then they started to write letters to me during classes, and made me feel like nothing, and then someone spread something i still have no idea what it was which made people stay away from me and all my "friends" ditched me. so i was a loner for a while, then i got called "Gothica" and "McEmo Kid" for about 2 years but now its stopped.

bullying can change people. it can destroy peoples confidence. i used to be quite confident and easy going and really loud, now im more shy and scared and really defencive because i've been defending myself so much i've forgotten how to be easy going.

I agree 100% I've hardly got any confidence, only around people I know well.

xx

 

exactly, its difficult to be yourself around others now, because you get scared on how some people may judge you or that could just be me

Same with me!! That's exactly how I feel.

It's horrible

xxxxx

xxchloeepoozxx:

exactly, its difficult to be yourself around others now, because you get scared on how some people may judge you or that could just be me

I got bullied for about a year, I don't want to go into it because I hate thinking about it, it was pretty intense - not physical, but the emotional side, and I didn't talk to anyone about it until my form teacher asked me if anything was wrong and I burst into tears. The "friends" i had all ditched me. But now I have better friends who I know would never turn their backs on me, I moved classes and everyone seems to have grown up a bit, I even got a genuine apology from one of the bullies. I'm alot happier now, but I lost all my confidence and I'm now trying to slowly build it back up.

reganmcfly:

xxchloeepoozxx:

exactly, its difficult to be yourself around others now, because you get scared on how some people may judge you or that could just be me

i'm exactly the same, chloe. it's not just you! =].

except, i've found whenever i meet new people and i do open my mouth, i say something that they think is just weird... so i tend to keep my mouth shut. the only time i ever open up and can talk is when i am lining up for a gig (which is why i was actually totally comfortable talking to you at mcfly.. if you even remember that).
it's just because you know you can talk to those people about at least one thing.

xxchloeepoozxx:

.Vicky.:

xxchloeepoozxx:

i've been bullied a fair bit.
back in aussie, it was because of my eyes were "different" then because i was a maori and came from new zealand. got called "new zealand freak" by a few guys in my year back then.

but the worst bullying was with a big group of people back 4 years ago when they started to make a stupid immature group up called the "I Hate Chloe Waaka Club" which made me laugh, but then they started to write letters to me during classes, and made me feel like nothing, and then someone spread something i still have no idea what it was which made people stay away from me and all my "friends" ditched me. so i was a loner for a while, then i got called "Gothica" and "McEmo Kid" for about 2 years but now its stopped.

bullying can change people. it can destroy peoples confidence. i used to be quite confident and easy going and really loud, now im more shy and scared and really defencive because i've been defending myself so much i've forgotten how to be easy going.

I agree 100% I've hardly got any confidence, only around people I know well.

xx

 

exactly, its difficult to be yourself around others now, because you get scared on how some people may judge you or that could just be me

I was bullied six years ago for two long years. When I was still at primary school I was the most popular girl of our year and people who know me now will question that because I've changed so much as soon as I left primary school. I lost three grandparents when I changed schools so I grew silent, trying to cope with the loss and somehow my new classmates just thought I was a weirdo or something and they started bullying me. I used to be confident but after that I turned shy and I'm constantly thinking what other people might think of me. When I hear people laughing I think it's because of me and that's made me who I am today. A shy girl who barely dares to talk when there are strangers around.
It's frustrating because I want to get over this but I've been thinking like this for six years and my ex best friends didn't make it easier at all, constantly critising me, pretending I didn't know anything just because I was the youngest so I thought "if even my friends are like this then something must be wrong with me" and now I'm scared to say something, scared that people will see whatever my bullies saw years ago - even if there's nothing, I still have that thought.

So I agree with you. It destroys people confidence completely. It has destroyed mine and I have no idea how to build it up again. I'm too scared.

it actually feels good that people do go through the same situations, like i always knew i wasnt alone, but now reading all of your stories it makes me feel, idk, less alone as i usually was.

its pretty hard to build up our confidences up, but we can do it!
im usually scared to be myself around ANYONE, but these days i try and be more myself, and i think im kinda getting there.

xxchloeepoozxx:

it actually feels good that people do go through the same situations, like i always knew i wasnt alone, but now reading all of your stories it makes me feel, idk, less alone as i usually was.

its pretty hard to build up our confidences up, but we can do it!
im usually scared to be myself around ANYONE, but these days i try and be more myself, and i think im kinda getting there.

reganmcfly:

xxchloeepoozxx:

it actually feels good that people do go through the same situations, like i always knew i wasnt alone, but now reading all of your stories it makes me feel, idk, less alone as i usually was.

its pretty hard to build up our confidences up, but we can do it!
im usually scared to be myself around ANYONE, but these days i try and be more myself, and i think im kinda getting there.

you can be yourself around me, chloe! BECAUSE YOU ARE AMAZING.
you're such a beautiful person... everyone in here is. it's a shame that there are others who just couldn't see it, but that is nothing but their loss and stupidity.

*blushes*
thankyou regan. you too are THE SHIZZNICKLEBOBDICKY!
you speak your mind and are such a truthful loving person (:
AND IM NOT JUST SAYING THAT BECAUSE ITS THAT TYPE OF MOMENT! ITS THE TRUTH!

and everyone else here is most prolly the nicest people who do not deserve any of the stuff you get!